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How to Make a Vision Board

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The idea of a Vision Board was first introduced to me by my brother in a book called The Secret which was later made into a documentary and  featured on Oprah. Ever since then, I’ve had one plastered up on my wall.

What is a Vision Board?

A vision board is basically a board that you can place all your dreams and goals on. They can comprise of pictures and or words that remind you every day of what your goals are.

How do I use my Vision Board?

It’s really important to have your vision board in a place where you can see it every day. This way, you can be reminded of what the big picture is! Once you’re reminded of your goals, it helps you to be more intentional with how you use your time. It just makes you think, oh is this activity helping me to get closer to my goals? If not, what should I do get me closer to my goal of xyz.

How do I make my own Vision Board?

Materials needed: Cork Board, Magazines, Paper, Markers, Srap booking material (optional)

  1. First you’ll need to think about your goals. You can write down a list of what you want to put on your board or think about quotes you want included
  2. Starting flipping through your magazines to see if there are any quotes or pictures that you could cut out and place on your vision board.  
  3. If there’s something you can’t find but really need on your vision board, get creative and whip out those markers and some paper
  4. Start putting it on your board – it’s important to put what you want to focus on most at the center of your board so that your eye zones into it and then all of the smaller priority goals can surround that central goal.

These are the essential things you need to make a vision board. It’s simple but it’s important to really brainstorm what you want the focus of your vision board to be about! So take some time to really think about that and then also, find a friend and maybe you guys can work on it together and make it a date night because it’s so much more fun doing it with a friend! Hope this has been helpful and good luck!

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully

ATL

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5 Tips on How to Live Life For Yourself

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I am struggling between finally living life for me versus living to please my family. While I know it’s a responsibility to care for my aging parents I still can’t help but yearn to live a life dedicated to me. I think though, that at some point we need to let go of our obligations to friends, family, boyfriends or even jobs we might not necessarily care for and finally live the life we’ve always imagined. It takes a great deal of courage to venture out and live life for YOU because while some people might accuse you of being selfish or too egocentric, it is imperative that we forego these thoughts and live for us. Here are a few tips on how to live life for yourself.

1. Know Your Whys

When you know why you’re doing something, it helps to drive all of your actions. If you don’t have a clear understanding of why you want to live for you, it will be pretty easy to be swayed a certain way. So you have to live and breathe why you want to live for you.

2. Create Alliances

Find friends or family members you can confide in and support your cause of living for you. Call on these guys to help remind you on days when it’s difficult and you feel like giving up because even when you don’t believe in yourself, these people will and you need to feed off that energy to keep you going.

3. Take Responsibility

When people blame you for not doing this or that or not living up to your role of whatever, take responsibility for your actions. However, not only will you need to take responsibility for disappointing others but also ensure that you are taking your life into your own hands and are moving closer to your goal of living for you despite disappointing people along the way.

4. Be Okay with The Repercussions

Ensure that you are aware of the repercussions that may occur if you decide to do something. However, not only do you have to be aware, you need to be OK with whatever happens, whether it be burning bridges, bringing disappointment to people you care about.. Etc. It will be tough but you have to be okay with it in order to move forward with living for you.

5. Be Kind To Yourself

You are going to get a ton of backlash for all of your “selfish” decisions. But remember to be kind to yourself through the process. It can be really easy to jump on the bandwagon and believe that you are being selfish living for you. Remember though that you are not because YOU do come first.

There’s going to be a lot of backlash when you decide to live for yourself and the repercussions may be difficult to handle. Trust me, moving to LA was one of the most difficult decisions of my life… but at the end of the day, I really do think your loved ones just want you to be happy. They’re going to try their best to warn you to bring an umbrella. But it’s your choice whether you want to bring an umbrella or dance in the rain… Good luck my loves

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL  

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5 Tips on How to Love Yourself More

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Having self compassion can be one of the most difficult things to do, especially after you’ve done something you aren’t proud of. However, I believe self compassion is the core to so many other things. From inner peace, to courage and love… self compassion affects all of who we are. When we love ourselves, it is so much easier to love on others. With Valentine’s Day tomorrow, I thought it would be fitting to talk about the most important person you should love on! YOU. So here are 5 Tips on How to Love Yourself…

1. Know Your Worth

It’s so important to recognize our worth. Brene Brown talks a lot about how the wholehearted can love and be loved because they feel that they are worthy of love and belonging. It’s a simple concept yet very difficult to practice. I know especially for me, it’s tough to love myself after I’ve done wrong. Allow yourself to feel the negativity, but the moment it passes, remind yourself that you are worthy of love and belonging regardless of your shortcomings.

2. Accept Your Faults

This brings me to my next point that we need to accept our faults and move forward. It’s really easy to get caught up in the feelings of shame and disappointment. I experience it all the time and we are all definitely our worst critic. It’s tough to hear others criticize us but I think our inner voices can be so much worse. We need to remember to acknowledge our shortcomings but also let go of those emotions because it’s not going to do us any good to hold onto them.

3. Treat Yourself

Everyone deserves a treat, even ourselves! I think it’s so important to be able to love on you the way you love on others. Reflect on whether you’re treating yourself the way you treat others? If you’re praising others, and putting other people first, shouldn’t we do the same for ourselves? And YES I think we should, so I think it’s perfectly okay to treat yourself to that sweet dessert or that pair of heels you’ve been eyeing at the store.

4. Practice Positive Talk

This is really difficult for me but this is something i’m constantly working on. What I mean by positive talk is yes, thinking positively but also speaking positively and using better more empowering words when we talk to ourselves or others. For example, instead of saying ‘I think I can do this’ change it to ‘I know I can do this’ or, ‘I hope I have a good day’ to ‘I’m going to have a good day’ and ‘I think I look alright today’ to ‘girl, I look fiiiiine!’

5. Do good

Finally the last item I want to touch on in trying to love on ourselves more is being able to love on others. For me personally, I always feel better about myself when I do a good deed or random act of kindness. It always feels good to be able to help in some way for the good of others. So with that,  once you start feeling a little love within yourself, try to give back in some way and I promise you, the love will keep on coming!

Happy loving and happy Valentine’s day beautifuls!

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully

ATL

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5 Reasons it’s Okay Not to Know Who You Are

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Category: Self Acceptance, Self Compassion, The Best You, Authenticity

People are like onions. There are so many layers to our personality that it can be challenging to know who you are. I have a pretty good sense of who I am, but through trial and error, experience and exposure we learn a little more about ourselves.

I believe the experiences that move us outside our comfort zone, are the moments in which we learn the most about ourselves. While I may not fully understand why I might act a certain way, I am now completely aware that there exists within me a random, awkward, completely face-palming worthy girl. And hey, THAT’s OKAY because…

1. Humans are constantly evolving, learning and growing  

I think even in old age, we’ll have a very good sense as to who we are but there might be something that will always make you think, “huh… I never thought about it that way “

2. We can and need to act differently in various situations anyway

Of course you’re going to act completely different at your best friend’s bachelorette party than you are going to act at say a meeting for your internship or job.

3. Knowing your likes/dislikes, strengths/weaknesses is a great start

Even though you might not think you know who you are, recognizing what we like and what we’re good at gives us the beginning sketches of who we are

4. Exploring our values, non-negotiables and passions take time

Knowing what we stand for is truly the essence of understanding who we are and if you don’t know, pick a topic and see what side you take and discover why, ie. abortion

5. We’re still young, it’s hard to know everything

we’re human, we’re not going to know everything.

So the next time you feel like you don’t know who you are, remember that there are plenty of other people out there who are probably experiencing the same thing. So cut yourself some slack and realize these things take time. However, just the fact that you are concerned about wanting to have a deeper understanding of who you are, what you believe in and who you want to be are the first steps in learning more about your beYOUtiful self 😉

simply beYOUtiful,

Anh Thu

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5 Tips on How to Attract the Right Person into Your Life

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Category: The Best You, Authenticity

I’ve been so blessed in that God has given me an amazing man and surprisingly is exactly the man I dreamt of years before! Hoan and I met over two years ago at a conference I was volunteering for in Dallas, Texas. He does motivational speaking for a living and was one of our speakers for the weekend. It was mere happenstance that I ran into him in the lobby that day because I wasn’t even supposed to be there to greet him and I guess the rest is history! Anyway, I don’t want to bore you with the details so I’ll get right to it.  

I believe attracting the right person into your life requires not only effort but also patience. Effort in seeking but also effort in knowing who you are and what you want. A lot of people think it’s about getting out there, meeting people and going on dates… and that’s about half of it, the other half is really envisioning the right person – life partner you want and knowing your non-negotiables. Here are 5 Tips on how to find Mister Right!

1. Know who you are

this is really the foundation of it all because it really starts with you. Take some time to reflect on who you are, and what you offer to the table. It’s tough going into a relationship with low self-esteem or not knowing who you are because relationships require a lot of compromise and it’s easy to lose sight of who you are if you don’t have a good grip on what you value in the first place.

2. Be authentic and exude confidence

like attracts like and if you want the right person, such as a confident man who can meet you where you are, you’ve gotta show your worth. In addition to that, be authentic and upfront. At this stage in our lives, it’s tough to play games and besides, everyone loves a genuinely, open and honest person.

3. Know your non-negotiables

This goes back to knowing who you are and what you want. Write down a list of what you want in a man and what would be completely unacceptable as well. I remember back when I was in college, my best friend and I wrote down a list of all the attributes we wanted in our future hubbies and shockingly when Hoan and I started dating I looked back at the list and Hoan had everything I mentioned on the list and then some, it was crazy!

4. Seek in the right places

Again this goes back to like attracts like. Continue doing the activities you enjoy and putting yourself out there. If you enjoy volunteering, find those opportunities and maybe you’ll find them there. If you’re not finding anything locally, see if you can join something that is on a national level where you’re exposed to more people, join a singles network like events and adventures, try online sites like okcupid or apps like coffee meets bagel

5. Initiate or at least give them signs you’rE interested

We live in the 21st century and I think it’s perfectly a-ok if a woman initiates these days! I think men find that attractive. If you see someone cute, and y’all have locked eyes, I think that’s a good enough reason to casually walk on over (without being obvious or creepy lol) to say hi. the confidence you have to go up to them speaks volume and sometimes men really appreciate the obvious signs 🙂

Of course, take it with a grain of salt, there are a variety of ways to meet your significant other and these might work, these might not but what’s really important is to know what you want in a partner because when you know what you want, you know what you don’t want and that helps narrow down the selection. Good luck and let me know how it goes! <3

Love simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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The Key To Happiness

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Category: Authenticity, Self Compassion, The Best You

There are so many people out there who constantly strive for happiness and personally I think happiness is but a fleeting moment. Probably because happiness is an emotion. And with any emotion, they can change with a snap of a finger because of its’ volatility. Regardless of its characteristics though, so many people are constantly trying to achieve happiness. I believe the key to happiness starts from within and like with everything else, there are extreme highs and lows.

The Key to Happiness

I find that the older I get, the more I settle into the mold of who I am, which means the more content and comfortable I feel. We’ll know pretty instantly whether something feels right or wrong. However, I believe it gets a little easier over time as we get more exposed to different experiences that test our ability to stay true to who we are. Because as we stay as close to the core of who we are, the happier I believe we will be. Therefore, the key to happiness is being authentic and loving all of who you are, including those less than perfect characteristics!

So love on and be happy!

 

Love simply, love beyoutifully,
ATL

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What I learned Running Away from Reality

Category: Authenticity, Self Compassion, The Best You

I spent a year running away from reality during my transition to California. While it was a decision I made and ultimately wanted, what frustrated me was I found myself constantly lonely, which caused me to doubt my decision. I sat with these feelings for a long time and did my best to let go of the thoughts that held me hostage by traveling to distract me from the reality of California. I did my best to keep my game face on because I didn’t want anyone to know that deep down inside, I regretted my decision to move away from home.

It wasn’t until a conversation I had with my best friend that made me realize I hadn’t been at my best this last year. In that moment I knew I had wasted away an entire year, drowning in my own self pity… which was when it hit me, I can’t just let these negative emotions consume me nor control my life any further.

As embarrassed as I am to admit to all of this, I know it had to happen this way for me to truly appreciate and love my life, so as 2017 begins… this is what I need to let go of and forgive myself for.

The lesson I was reminded of through this process though: is that self compassion can be one of the most difficult things to practice but it’s the key to self love and pure confidence.

 

love simply, love beyoutifully,

anh thu

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what i’ve learned about TRUE happiness

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Category: Authenticity, Personal, Spread the Movement

as young adults, i think many of us oftentimes get sidetracked and want nothing more than a successful career. i’ve seen countless numbers of college grads throw away romantic relationships to up and leave for an opportunity in career advancement miles away from home but more importantly their loved ones. and let’s be honest, it is one of the best times of our lives to do so because most of us don’t have commitments or obligations holding us back… so why not, right?

but as exhilarating as that may sound, i have become challenged by this very concept. if we remind ourselves that life is only but a balancing act then we must take into account what else we need in our lives such as personal fulfillment but more importantly intimate connections.

the critics are beginning to voice their concerns and some are even becoming radical as to say find love first because your career can wait. which let me say, is a new school of thought but i think it emphasizes what this next generation is lacking; romantic intimacy.

so quit with the excuses; we need those relationships for a wholesome, elated life.

as christopher mccandless realized, [the man who walked into the wild looking for happiness in solidarity]: happiness is only real when shared.

 

live simply, love beyoutifully,

Anh Thu

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the Most important piece in the jigsaw puzzle

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Category: Authenticity, Self Compassion, Our Best Selves

I think there comes a point in time when you realize you are the most important piece to this jigsaw puzzle.

I tend to draw a lot of energy to my external environment and for the most part it’s because I genuinely care about it but something I’ve recently noticed is, it was just a way for me to neglect my own needs and pretend, at least for a little while that everything on my end was okay; but truth be told, I felt like a complete train wreck.

After so many jaded experiences… you can’t help but feel disheartened. However, putting a band aid on it and hoping it heals doesn’t actually make it go away. You realize you have to nurture that cut with love, care and antibiotics. Over time, the cut scabs over and you’re left with nothing more than perhaps a pigmented scar. Of course you’re never the same person you are coming out of it but that’s just the beauty of it; life moves on and you do too but the best part about it is you’re a little smarter and maybe a little wiser at the end of it all.

So with that, we need to stop focusing on everything else and start taking care of ourselves. it’s time to do YOU, and no one else.

simply beYOUtiful,

Anh Thu

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what is Beauty?

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Category: Authenticity, Spread the Movement, The Best You

beauty is encompassed by multiple things, but what’s important is how you define it and what you do to truly feel its’ essence. i grew up believing i was average, my vietnamese nickname Xí actually means ugly… so i can see why i had this belief for the years to come.

i think our society’s perception of beauty is exceptionally narrow and that is the reason why many women have a hard time admitting to it. in addition, i think there’s an unspoken stigma around looking or feeling good about yourself that can be perceived as pretentious and that just breaks my heart.

so how do you define beauty? for me, i believe being beautiful means feeling confident in your own skin and being authentic regardless of the situation.

would love to hear your beautiful thoughts!

love simply, love beyoutifully,

anh thu le