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Before I die Proposal

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The day of the proposal I was still jetlagged from my red eye flight into Minneapolis but also stressed because I had an online presentation for class that evening and I had found out earlier that my slides had gotten deleted so I was just really anxious to get home. My best friend Ann and I had gotten a late lunch that day and I told her I should probably get home early to work on my presentation so after a little stalling on her end she said “ok, but before we go home can we quick run an errand? I have to go pick up tickets at the Orpheum.” I said, “sure” and we were on our way to downtown.

She decided to park in this parking lot near the Orpheum and I thought… hmm this looks oddly familiar. And as we drove in and parked, I looked up and said, “oh hey this is where Hoan and I had the [before I die] wall date! “And she was like, “oh yeah?” And I was like, “…yeah!!”

Proposal Time

Once the car came to a stop I told her I would sit in the car and wait for her since it was sprinkling out and she said, “oh… I need two people to pick them up.” In my head, I was thinking, that’s odd… I’ve never heard of that before. I noticed she grabbed an umbrella and walked over to my passenger car side and got me out of the car. I got out and was still thinking, this is so weird that she is having me go pick up tickets with her. As we continue bickering, all of a sudden Ann goes, “ugh, just look over there” So then I look over and there is Hoan standing under an umbrella in front of a “Before I die” wall and I literally just bawled my eyes out.

In that moment, it felt like time just stood still because I was completely floored! I had a variety of different emotions run through me from shock, to guilt, to feeling so incredibly loved. I couldn’t believe he had been working on all of this without my knowledge! I also couldn’t believe it was me who was getting proposed to… It’s like you dream of it as a child, you think about it growing up and wonder what your proposal would look like and here it was happening right before my eyes. It’s a good thing it got documented because looking back now it felt like such a whirlwind.. but the most dreamy, thoughtful, romantic whirlwinds of all time.

Proposal Video here

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4 Tips on How to Have a Successful Relationship

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Hoan and I have been together for 2.5 years. While our relationship is not perfect, we’ve been able to maintain a happy, healthy, successful relationship. Granted we’ve been long distance for the entire duration of our relationship but like any other relationship we have differences that can make things difficult. Despite it we’ve been able to maintain a happy, healthy, successful relationship. 

1. Communication is Key

It’s imperative to be transparent in any relationship but especially a romantic relationship because your significant other needs to know how you feel. If we shut down because we’re put off by something and don’t let our significant other know, that’s going to lead to confusion and frustration and eventually withdrawal of efforts if they don’t see that their prying is making any progress.

2. Compromise

You’re going to have differences every single day but it’s key to know when to pick your battles and know when you can compromise. Not everything is going to go your way because a relationship involves two people with obviously different opinions.

3. Continue to Hold on 

One of the best pieces of advice we ever got was that you should always hold on. And hold on means that whenever you have an issue, one person should always hold on. For example, if you guys are arguing over the phone, don’t hang up if you know there’s more you need to talk through, continue the conversation until you’re both able to feel better about the situation.

4. Your significant other is your number one

Priorities are a huge thing that drives our daily activities. It’s important to make your significant other your number one priority, (of course after God for us). This allows for both people in the relationship to feel certainty and love which is one of our human needs. A lot of times, marriages begin breaking apart because they aren’t receiving the love they need from their spouse and then turn to their children for the love that they yearn for. Eventually, this cycle allows for separation and disconnect.

All of these practices have really helped Hoan and I in our relationship but again, it’s definitely not a guarantee because it’s also important to note that not every person is the right person for you. Regardless, i hope these practices can help you to have a successful relationship! Happy loving

 

 

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Vulnerability is Who I Am at My Core

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Something I’ve realized is that I haven’t been fully vulnerable lately. I’m not quite sure why that is but it could be that I’ve been tapping more into my airy side. The side that enjoys chillin’ and having a good time because I’m in sunny So-Cal.

After writing just these two sentences, I felt a gut-wrenching emotion telling me this doesn’t sound right.  Because I know this isn’t who I am at my core. In this moment of desperation, I looked up at my vision board for some answers. This is actually where I look and refer to to remind myself of who I am, what I want to achieve and I what I value. I inherently knew authenticity and vulnerability had to be somewhere on the fricken board.

And what do you know, front and center with the definitions of who Anh Thu is: “Continue to be authentic and vulnerable.” And that’s when it hit me… I don’t feel like I’ve been myself because I haven’t chosen to be real or very open with many people.  So really, it’s my fault that I haven’t been feeling like myself. Because this is a decision I made but this is also where it ends. 

THoughts

So, who are you at your core? I think it’s important to reflect upon who you are and how it’s being reflected in your daily life because your actions may not necessarily show it. Would be curious to hear your thoughts!

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What to Ask Yourself when You’re About to Walk Away

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Some of the most difficult things we’ll ever have to do are usually the most important things that could make or break our relationships. And as I’m trying to figure out whether I should bring it up or walk away… one of the questions I need to ask myself is

Is it worth it?

I’ve found that over the years, I can easily let go and set camp up elsewhere. Since my move here.. I feel like it’s gotten incredibly easy to do that because you’re not held to a certain standard or peer group because of the circumstances. In a new city, no one knows who you are… so you have more freedom to do as you please without judgement.

But as I ponder on the question of whether it’s worth it to bring up, I think about the relations that are involved and which option I’d be more okay living with. And that brings me to my answer, “I have to say something.”
Wish me luck, gulp.

 

 

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