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3 Ways to have More Gratitude in Your Life

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I think gratitude is central to having a more fulfilling life. It’s all about having a positive outlook on life because perspective is everything. When you look at the cup half full versus half empty, we’re focused on what we have versus what we don’t have and it allows us to come from a place of “fullness” which then of course helps us to be more and to give more. This post will discuss three points on how to have more gratitude in your life.

I notice that whenever I’m feeling run down I’m focused on the mountainous things I need to do or what I don’t have but once t I stop and take a little moment to reflect on what I do have and what I’ve already achieved I immediately feel a little better, even if it’s an ounce… it’s definitely worth it. So here are three things I do that i hope can help you to have more gratitude in your life too!

1. Meditate or pray

Take a moment to visualize everyone and everything you’re grateful for in the morning. It’s helpful to start every morning off on the right foot. And allowing yourself to pray or meditate to think about all you’re thankful for can allow you to start off in the right mental state.

2. Vocalize your gratitude

Tell someone how grateful you are for them. For me, it always makes me feel good when I’m able to say something positive about someone like when I make a compliment or tell someone thank you but it’s not just a oh yeah thanks but it’s like a real like… hey thank you so much for this because you helped me to this…

3. Write it down

Once you’re about to wind down your night, write down three good things that happened that day. This has probably been the most powerful practice that my friends and I have used and there’s something about being able to remember the moment, writing it down and seeing it on paper that’s just so magical. And it’s like once you have a collection going on, it’s so fun to be able to look back on the previous pages and see all the beautiful magical moments you’ve archived in just the last few days.

The last practice of writing it down was truly the key to help me have more gratitude in me life. So if you can’t adopt all three, I say at least adopt the last one. What I find so powerful about it is just being able to visualize it while you write it, seeing it on paper the day you write it but also being able to go back and reflect upon at the collection of “goods” you’ve been given. Once you start reading your collection of three goods, I promise you… you’ll perk up a smile and start feeling grateful for all those little things in life 🙂

Truly yours.

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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3 Tips on How to Let go and Move Forward

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Letting go is one of the hardest things to do in the grand scheme of things. While we are fully aware of the risks, we still attempt to swim upstream against that cold, hard current trying to reach our destination. But why? It is simply to fight the odds. Hoping… wishing that with our efforts, something will work out. 

But as with most things, effort has an expiration date. Sometimes, it’s just easier to let go and walk away, surrender our hands, throw in the towel and call it a day. I think the most difficult part about letting go is letting go of what you had or all of your hopes and dreams for it. Here are three tips on how to let go and move forward. 

1. Bathe in the emotions

Allow yourself to cry and be angry in full. It’s difficult and dangerous to hold all of those emotions inside because it can lead to numbness. Being numb is like freezing time because the emotions are all boxed up and put away and they can be difficult to access. It’s scary and painful but if you need to brace yourself, you can but just ensure that you acknowledge all of your emotions because that is the first step in letting go.

2. Have Closure

It can be difficult to let go when you’re hanging on to something, whether it be a sentimental item, or hopes and dreams. It’s tough to have those hopes and dreams come crashing down. It can take a long time to get to the point where you feel like you have the courage to let go of it all. But when you do, make sure there’s a succinct closing moment where you’re allowed to say good bye.

3. Be Patient

Unfortunately letting go doesn’t happen overnight. Have patience and allow time for regression. Because some days you’re going to feel like you took one step forward in the right direction and then the next day it’s like you’re back at square one. Realize this is all normal and have patience that soon it all shall pass.

I hope these tips can help you in the process of letting go. It’s definitely easy but continue to keep that head up high and  you’ll be able to let go and move forward in no time!

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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5 Tips on How to Love Yourself More

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Having self compassion can be one of the most difficult things to do, especially after you’ve done something you aren’t proud of. However, I believe self compassion is the core to so many other things. From inner peace, to courage and love… self compassion affects all of who we are. When we love ourselves, it is so much easier to love on others. With Valentine’s Day tomorrow, I thought it would be fitting to talk about the most important person you should love on! YOU. So here are 5 Tips on How to Love Yourself…

1. Know Your Worth

It’s so important to recognize our worth. Brene Brown talks a lot about how the wholehearted can love and be loved because they feel that they are worthy of love and belonging. It’s a simple concept yet very difficult to practice. I know especially for me, it’s tough to love myself after I’ve done wrong. Allow yourself to feel the negativity, but the moment it passes, remind yourself that you are worthy of love and belonging regardless of your shortcomings.

2. Accept Your Faults

This brings me to my next point that we need to accept our faults and move forward. It’s really easy to get caught up in the feelings of shame and disappointment. I experience it all the time and we are all definitely our worst critic. It’s tough to hear others criticize us but I think our inner voices can be so much worse. We need to remember to acknowledge our shortcomings but also let go of those emotions because it’s not going to do us any good to hold onto them.

3. Treat Yourself

Everyone deserves a treat, even ourselves! I think it’s so important to be able to love on you the way you love on others. Reflect on whether you’re treating yourself the way you treat others? If you’re praising others, and putting other people first, shouldn’t we do the same for ourselves? And YES I think we should, so I think it’s perfectly okay to treat yourself to that sweet dessert or that pair of heels you’ve been eyeing at the store.

4. Practice Positive Talk

This is really difficult for me but this is something i’m constantly working on. What I mean by positive talk is yes, thinking positively but also speaking positively and using better more empowering words when we talk to ourselves or others. For example, instead of saying ‘I think I can do this’ change it to ‘I know I can do this’ or, ‘I hope I have a good day’ to ‘I’m going to have a good day’ and ‘I think I look alright today’ to ‘girl, I look fiiiiine!’

5. Do good

Finally the last item I want to touch on in trying to love on ourselves more is being able to love on others. For me personally, I always feel better about myself when I do a good deed or random act of kindness. It always feels good to be able to help in some way for the good of others. So with that,  once you start feeling a little love within yourself, try to give back in some way and I promise you, the love will keep on coming!

Happy loving and happy Valentine’s day beautifuls!

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully

ATL

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What to do for Valentine’s Day for Your Boyfriend – 5 Extra Ways

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With Valentine’s day just a few days away, I wanted to talk about 5 Extra Ways you can love on him this holiday weekend! It can be a little challenging coming up with ideas to help make that significant other feel special. So I thought it would be fun to write a post on what to do for Valentine’s Day for your boyfriend. It’s so important to love on your significant other every single day and make every day feel like Valentine’s Day but it’s always nice to have a designated day for it.

First of all I want to say my boyfriend Hoan, makes me feel like the luckiest girl in the world. I’ve been rather toxic these last few weeks and he’s been incredibly understanding and compassionate. I know it takes a lot patience to have to listen to my rants so I am beyond grateful. I hope you all have someone you can love on like that this Valentine’s day but if not, girrrrrl love on YOU! But anyway, here are 5 things you can do for Valentine’s day for your significant other!

1. Surprise HIM with an activity he would enjoy

Treat yoself is so big these days and I think it’s perfectly fitting to surprise them with something that only he would enjoy but both of you can experience, whether it be tickets to a game, a massage, a work out, etc.

2. Make a Run for HIS favorite drink

Stop by the local starbucks or boba shop and get him his go to drink and surprise him at the office or at home!

3. Write a love letter

In such a digital age, hand written letters are still unique. You can talk about the moment you met or all the things you love about them, what you look forward to most with them, why you’re grateful for them and either mail to them, leave it on his pillow or tuck it in with his work things where he’ll for sure see it later on

4. Plan a Getaway Trip

Regardless of how big or small, you can always plan a small weekend trip or if your short on time, even a day trip would work. There’s something about being out of your normal element that is always so magical, especially with that special someone.

5. Say I Love You in a Unique Way

Everyone receives love in a different way. The 5 love languages allows you to take a quiz to see how you receive love, whether it’s through words of affirmation, physical touch, etc. Learn how he receives love and be intentional on loving him in that way!

I hope these activities will put a smile on your significant other. However, any act of kindness with some intentionality I’m sure will go a long way. Anyway Happy Valentine’s day and wishing you lots of love-filled days <3

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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3 Ways on How to Overcome Fear

Fear holds us back from doing a lot of things but when you think about it, it’s not fear that’s doing it, it’s ourselves. I’ve been catching a lot of limiting thoughts lately, thoughts of doubt or that I wish I could do this or that and it’s been really paralyzing. I recently started a new job and with any learning curve, it’s challenging at first but as time goes on, practice eventually makes perfect. I’m not sure when that will be and of course perfection doesn’t exist but I’m really hoping it gets close to that. With that, I want to share with you three things I’m reminding myself daily to help me overcome  fear that I hope will also help you.

1. Admit to My Weaknesses

I think the first step in anything is admitting that we fear. Because recognition allows us to say hey, there’s a problem and I need to fix it.

2. Have a Plan

Think about what the end destination is, whether that be achieving a goal or needing to come clean to something. Have a specific plan so you know exactly what you need to do to get there.

3. Ask for Help

This is probably one of the most difficult things for me personally. When it comes to my shortcomings, I have this weird thing about not wanting to put it on blast. So instead, I quietly try to battle it out on my own. However, this is not going to do any good and I don’t know why I do it! If you don’t know how to do something, either get resourceful and find out how or ask an expert for help. Get off your high horse ATL and ask for help! ugh.

Fear meets us every day but remember that we have the choice and the power to overcome anything we set our minds to. We need the right tools and the right attitude to have the courage to overcome fear. They say that courage is not the absence of fear, it’s acting in spite of it and I couldn’t agree more. Good luck!

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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5 Keys to Productivity

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One of my favorite states to be in is flow, otherwise known as the zone. It’s a place where you feel productive, fully immersed in whatever you’re doing and best of all, it feels like you’re on top of the world! There are a lot of activities to do to be productive, it’s just ensuring that we actually follow through with them. In this post I want to talk about 5 keys to productivity.

1. Listen to music that doesn’t  Distract you 

Back when I was in college, I listened to a  lot of instrumental, orchestral music. Nowadays though, I mostly listen to Pandora Radio Stations: Klingande – or Jubel. Some of my favorites are Kingande – Jubel, God Can Save Our Souls, or Punga and Tove Lo – Say it. I also know Youtube also have those playlists and I’ll do those from time to time too if you’re more of a youtube kinda person.

2. Be intentional with your work time 

My boyfriend uses 25 minute pomodora work sessions. It’s essentially setting a timer for 25 minutes and working straight through those 25 minutes and once the timer goes off, allow yourself a 5-10 minute break and then go right back at it. We use them when we’re working together and surprisingly the 25 minutes go by really quickly

3. Plan your day 

write down everything that needs to get done. There are many ways to do it – I write each task down with a dash in front of it. When I complete it, I write a vertical line down the dash like a (+) sign which tells me I’m done with that task, which is very exciting lol. Hoan plans out his day according to the hour starting from 5AM to 10PM and inserts activities in each of those time slots so he knows exactly what he’s doing at the exact hour.

4. Remind yourself daily of your bigger goals

I have a vision board that displays all of my goals on there and I have it strategically placed on the wall at my desk. I’ve realized that I spend almost 70% of my time at my desk when I’m at home so as I’m sitting there and my eyes get tired looking at my laptop, I look up and smack dab in front of me are my 30 year-old goals and 2017 goals and I am immediately reminded of the bigger picture and why I’m doing all this work.

5. Let someone know what your plans are

Keep yourself accountable and share your goals with a friend. It’s always helpful to let another person know that you plan on doing something. I always find that it becomes more real when you share it. However, ensure that they actually follow up with you on the goal later on!

Hope these 5 keys to productivity help you in getting more things done as it has for me. Let me know how it goes and happy FLOWWW!

 

Simply beyoutiful,

Anh Thu

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5 Tips on How to Attract the Right Person into Your Life

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Category: The Best You, Authenticity

I’ve been so blessed in that God has given me an amazing man and surprisingly is exactly the man I dreamt of years before! Hoan and I met over two years ago at a conference I was volunteering for in Dallas, Texas. He does motivational speaking for a living and was one of our speakers for the weekend. It was mere happenstance that I ran into him in the lobby that day because I wasn’t even supposed to be there to greet him and I guess the rest is history! Anyway, I don’t want to bore you with the details so I’ll get right to it.  

I believe attracting the right person into your life requires not only effort but also patience. Effort in seeking but also effort in knowing who you are and what you want. A lot of people think it’s about getting out there, meeting people and going on dates… and that’s about half of it, the other half is really envisioning the right person – life partner you want and knowing your non-negotiables. Here are 5 Tips on how to find Mister Right!

1. Know who you are

this is really the foundation of it all because it really starts with you. Take some time to reflect on who you are, and what you offer to the table. It’s tough going into a relationship with low self-esteem or not knowing who you are because relationships require a lot of compromise and it’s easy to lose sight of who you are if you don’t have a good grip on what you value in the first place.

2. Be authentic and exude confidence

like attracts like and if you want the right person, such as a confident man who can meet you where you are, you’ve gotta show your worth. In addition to that, be authentic and upfront. At this stage in our lives, it’s tough to play games and besides, everyone loves a genuinely, open and honest person.

3. Know your non-negotiables

This goes back to knowing who you are and what you want. Write down a list of what you want in a man and what would be completely unacceptable as well. I remember back when I was in college, my best friend and I wrote down a list of all the attributes we wanted in our future hubbies and shockingly when Hoan and I started dating I looked back at the list and Hoan had everything I mentioned on the list and then some, it was crazy!

4. Seek in the right places

Again this goes back to like attracts like. Continue doing the activities you enjoy and putting yourself out there. If you enjoy volunteering, find those opportunities and maybe you’ll find them there. If you’re not finding anything locally, see if you can join something that is on a national level where you’re exposed to more people, join a singles network like events and adventures, try online sites like okcupid or apps like coffee meets bagel

5. Initiate or at least give them signs you’rE interested

We live in the 21st century and I think it’s perfectly a-ok if a woman initiates these days! I think men find that attractive. If you see someone cute, and y’all have locked eyes, I think that’s a good enough reason to casually walk on over (without being obvious or creepy lol) to say hi. the confidence you have to go up to them speaks volume and sometimes men really appreciate the obvious signs 🙂

Of course, take it with a grain of salt, there are a variety of ways to meet your significant other and these might work, these might not but what’s really important is to know what you want in a partner because when you know what you want, you know what you don’t want and that helps narrow down the selection. Good luck and let me know how it goes! <3

Love simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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2 Tips on How to Achieve Your Goals

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Category: The Best You, Spread the Movement

Setting goals is the fun part but working through to achieve your goals can be incredibly taxing. I’ve made some really lofty goals for 2017 and it’s gotten me incredibly overwhelmed at times. One, because they’re stretch goals and two, i’m wondering how in the heck am I going to achieve them?!

Make Commitments

I heard a really great piece of advice recently and that is: we shouldn’t be setting goals, rather we need to be making promises. For example, when you make plans with a friend to meet for dinner at 7pm, you’re meeting at 7pm! You’re not saying oh, my goal is to meet you at 7pm. It means it’s a commitment you’ve made to meet your friend at said time. And by committing to this, you’re going to follow through by showing up on time!

And just like our goals, we shouldn’t just make it a goal to do xy and z, we need to commit to DOING xyz in order to see the results we want.

Remind Yourself Daily 

The second thing we need to do to achieve our goals is remind ourselves daily of what it is we want to commit to. Whether that’s looking at your goals on a vision board or writing them down every day, having sticky notes that you can look at every day or keeping a written piece of paper with you in your purse to carry with you daily… What ever it is that can help remind you of these goals daily, just do it! The more you remind yourself consciously, the more likely these goals will be in your unconscious. And eventually, everything you do has a purpose in meeting those goals.

Good luck and happy goal committing!  

Simply beyoutiful,

ATL

 

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5 Things I’ve learned through Heartache and Mistakes

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i’ve made many mistakes in my time, none of which i am proud of but am thankful for the lessons i got out of them. here are some of the nuggets i’ve picked up along the way.

1. be thankful for the life you have and live it fully

i see death knocking on people’s door every single day and am reminded by how fragile life really is. as a person who was coasting through the storm i took so much for granted including my life, saying Jesus could take me today and i really wouldn’t care. i still wouldn’t care if God called me home but what has changed is the appreciation i have for my life.

2. don’t take your loved ones for granted

i had a bad habit of taking my loved ones for granted… thinking they’d always be there for me. but that changed when someone i loved dearly ended up walking out of my life. i understand there is an ending to every beginning but i never imagined the ending would be like this… so cherish those you care about most because you might not have the rest of your life to show your gratitude.

3. faith and religion are two separate things joined together by God

i was struggling with my faith and for a while, wondered where He was. i had many unanswered questions, disagreed with a lot of values taught by my religion and at one point felt like i couldn’t identify with it. i was upset and angry at God; i needed answers but all i was getting was silence. i started drifting away from Him but one day, i finally received the sign i had been waiting for. and now, i am on my journey home with a slightly better understanding of it all. although i still don’t agree with everything the church teaches, i know i’m catholic because of Him.

4. stand your ground when it counts but compromise when you can

relationships are all about give and take. know your values and understand how important they are in your life. i was too unwavering with values i realized weren’t all that important to me which ultimately left me astray. however, that was the other issue… i hadn’t fully recuperated and jumped headfirst into it without fully knowing what i had to offer but more importantly, who i was. which leads me to my final point

5. self compassion is the key to being true to who you are and what you want

that whole cliche about taking care of yourself first so you can take care of others is true to its very core. i neglected my personal needs and in the end realized the only person i was betraying, was myself. take time to recharge, let yourself feel and get to know who you really are again so that you know what your needs are and what you bring to the table.

these are things that have really hit home for me. living authentically is a choice we make every single day but as long as it’s still a conscious choice i make for myself, i know i’ll be a-okay.

 

love simply, love beyoutifully,
Anh Thu

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6 Practices I use to Snap out of a Bad Mood

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I’ve been catching myself feeling frustrated and overwhelmed much more than usual and it may be due to the fact that I’m feeling a little nervous and worried about how I can achieve my goals.

You know when you write down those lofty dreams of yours and decide to make them into measurable goals… and then it hits you that you’re the only one who can make it possible? You realize the weight of it is all on your shoulders and it’s exhilarating yet so nerve-racking! I’m really unsure as to how I’m going to be able to create all of it but as I get lost in these emotions, here are the 6 practices I use to calm myself into a better, calmer state of mind. 

1. Get your body moving 

go for a run, to the gym or just stand up and start walking around

2. Listen to something that lifts your spirits

for me, I always listen to worship music to get in a more grateful mood, otherwise some good vibin’ music will do

3. Let out the steam

it’s tough for me to keep my emotions inside so I HAVE to release it whether it be talking, venting to someone, tweeting, sharing a post via social media

4. Eat something you know your body will appreciate

whether I’m in a burger mood, or a green juice mood… I always gravitate towards something that I know my body will appreciate, whether it be mentally or physically

5. Think about what you’re grateful for

the worship music really helps with this because it helps me to start praising Jesus and reflect on what I’m so blessed to have

6. Pray

regardless of what religion you practice, or if you just meditate.. It’s always helpful to get inside your own head

As we continue on this journey together… hopefully these habits can help you to stay calm and centered  in difficult times as well! Good luck loves.

 

love simply, love beyoutifully,

anh thu