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Vulnerability is Who I Am at My Core

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Something I’ve realized is that I haven’t been fully vulnerable lately. I’m not quite sure why that is but it could be that I’ve been tapping more into my airy side. The side that enjoys chillin’ and having a good time because I’m in sunny So-Cal.

After writing just these two sentences, I felt a gut-wrenching emotion telling me this doesn’t sound right.  Because I know this isn’t who I am at my core. In this moment of desperation, I looked up at my vision board for some answers. This is actually where I look and refer to to remind myself of who I am, what I want to achieve and I what I value. I inherently knew authenticity and vulnerability had to be somewhere on the fricken board.

And what do you know, front and center with the definitions of who Anh Thu is: “Continue to be authentic and vulnerable.” And that’s when it hit me… I don’t feel like I’ve been myself because I haven’t chosen to be real or very open with many people.  So really, it’s my fault that I haven’t been feeling like myself. Because this is a decision I made but this is also where it ends. 

THoughts

So, who are you at your core? I think it’s important to reflect upon who you are and how it’s being reflected in your daily life because your actions may not necessarily show it. Would be curious to hear your thoughts!

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GREEN with Patience

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It’s always important to have reminders of why you’re doing what you’re doing. Hoan and I are beginning to have many more conversations about what we want of our future. However,  I will say these conversations can be somewhat difficult to have. Getting the life we want is going to take hard work and lots and lots of patience. So if you’re like me and patience is not your friend, we need to remind ourselves WHY and HOW and look at the progress we’ve made thus far. And while the mountain still looks gigantic from where you’re standing, it’s okay because remember that nothing is achieved over night but also that nothing is impossible!

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An Honest Confession

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i decided to take a little hiatus to regain some clarity in the reason why i began this blog. i originally had high hopes for it and my ultimate goal was wanting to help women all across the world feel simply beautiful. i wasn’t quite sure how i was going to do it… and to be honest, i still don’t… and in the midst of it all, i lost sight of my end goal and i’m so sorry.

i finally decided it was time to take a break after my workbook was released. what came as a huge surprise was when i didn’t feel any excitement in announcing my workbook that i had worked tirelessly to create. it took WEEKS for me to finally announce it on my blog and that in itself was a huge sign. i feel like something with this much  magnitude should have came with much more thrill and yet i felt like it was almost a nuisance for me to talk about it.

i’m unsure where this journey will lead me… but i promise you it’s not over. i just need some time to clear my head and my heart and figure out how and why i’m doing what i’m doing. <3 you guys

 

live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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Romper:  ChicWish

Earrings: Charming Charlie’s

Shoes: Similar Kenneth Cole Reaction 

 

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FREE Simply Beyoutiful Workbook is FINALLY here!

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I just want to let you Beautifuls know my FREE workbook is finally available for download! If you’re reading this from the blog, on the righthand side you’ll find a form to enter in your info OR on mobile, scroll to the bottom and you’ll see the form! Once you complete the process, you’ll get an email to the workbook link that you can download! 🙂

This has been such a long, stressful, yet rewarding journey. I never knew creating such content could be so much work. But I’m so happy to present to you a workbook with 5 tips on how to feel beautiful instantly! The workbook is meant for you to work through, and reflect on the things that truly make you feel beautiful. The best part? On the days that you’re not feeling exceptional you can pull out the workbook and remind yourself exactly how to feel fabulous instantly!

Feel Beyoutiful!

Feeling truly beautiful can be a difficult thing, but remember that it’s not all about physical beauty, there are so many other things encompassing that word and what’s most important is figuring out what ‘beautiful’ means to you!

Here at simplybeyoutiful, we believe in the beauty that makes you, YOU! I hope we can support you on the journey to feeling beautiful every single day and living your best life!

 

live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

 

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On Relationship Agreements

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Hoan and I want to thank EVERYONE who shared recommendations on books to read to strengthen a romantic relationship. The first book we decided to delve into is Relationship Agreements the bookWe chose this book for a variety of reasons:

  1. Chapters are a BREEZE – every chapter is several pages so you can quickly read a chapter a day if that’s all the time you have
  2. The author provides at the end of every chapter homework or exercises you can do. Hoan and I love being able to put words into action so this was perfect. (FYI: the homework assignments are lengthy so we don’t do all of them)
  3. You can skip around – you don’t have to read in a chronological order. Different chapters have different topics, so if there’s one you feel could be of more benefit, have at it.

The Relationship as Its’ Own Entity

The first chapter talks about how you should consider your relationship as a separate entity. Meaning the relationship is something that you and your partner co-create. The author takes it a step further and actually advises to give your relationship a name. This is because it allows for both parties to invest in something you both have some responsibility over versus investing in the person. For example, when you go out of your way to do something for your partner and they hardly notice, you can’t help but get upset with them. But when you’re doing it for the relationship, there’s more pardon you can place on your partner for not noticing because it wasn’t necessarily for them, it was for the relationship.

Relationship Agreements

The second thing we’ve learned is to have agreements that you both have discussed and both agree upon committing to in the relationship. And of course these agreements can change over time as long as you both discuss and agree on them changing. Hoan and I have made some agreements upon regarding day to day stuff, bedtime and wedding planning. Which you know it honestly felt really good to talk about them and to have both of us aware and on the same page.

But yeah so far so good! If you end up reading it, lmk how it goes and what you guys get out of it!

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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Growing Up – What would your 17 year-old Self Say

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My friend Ann recently asked me if my 17 year old self would be pleased or disappointed with the 27 year old self that I am today. I can’t believe it was 10 years ago that I was 17… it feels so long ago yet at the same time feels like yesterday. Being a senior in high school, I felt like the next few years were so cookie cut for me. At the time, I knew I was going to the University of Minnesota for the next four years, was exceptionally excited to grow up and start adulting even if 17 felt old already. I was literally looking forward to growing up, getting married and being a mom, starting a nonprofit of some sort… and just basically being a rockstar.

In the here and now at 27, I can say that I am nowhere near being a rockstar. While getting married and having kids is on the horizon, I’m definitely nowhere near starting a nonprofit! My life is so different than what I thought it would be but I’m grateful for who and where I am today. The one thing I do want to pick apart is the nonprofit I dreamed of starting. Honestly, I never considered myself an entrepreneur but the older I get the more enticing that sounds.  I can say with confidence though, that starting this blog is a starting point for that nonprofit I dreamed of. I’m not sure how or when… but I know there’s more to the blog than just this.

So if you want to join in on the reflection, here are some things to ponder:

What did I picture life would be like when I grew up?

What dreams did I have as a child that I wanted to pursue?

Am I living the life I deserve?

What more can I do to create the life I want?

 

I’d love to hear what your thoughts are!

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

 

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Goal Setting: What’s Most Important

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I look at my goals and a lot of times I think: how the heck am I going to get there? Reaching the top is such a rewarding experience that a lot of times we want to skip the hard work and just bask in the glory. But of course, that’s never the case. I know especially for a lot of younger people, we want to be successful NOW.  In this post, I want to talk about why it’s so important to enjoy the here and now. 

We live in a world where instant gratification is the new hype. Everything is NOW. But what’s definitely sad about it is that we’re not enjoying nor appreciating the process we must go through to get where we want to be. Psychology coined the arrival fallacy to acknowledge a lot of the disappointment that people experience when we get to our end destination, look around and go, ‘that’s it?!”  And it’s like ‘yup, that’s it.’

The purpose of every goal

Hoan told me something really valuable that one of his mentors shared with him that I want to pass along. The purpose of every goal is not to achieve it. The purpose of every goal is to learn, grow, and become a better person through the process.

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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How to Make a New City Feel Like Home

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The transition to California was definitely a difficult one. Being that it was the first time on my own, I constantly missed Minnesota. I thought for a long time that LA would never feel like home. However, I’m happy to say that it’s finally beginning to feel like it! In this post, I want to share what helped me with the transition in becoming a California transplant but also how to make a new city truly feel like home.

When I first moved to California a year and a half ago, I constantly missed home, my family and quaint-old Minnesota. I fought for a long time to even accept LA as home because I had too much pride in being a Midwesterner. It finally crept up on me one day after a trip to Florida. I was sitting on the airplane thinking, man I’m excited to go home and get some poke! I thought dang, do I really like poke that much? No! It’s because I love having a variety of food all in a 5 mile radius. Which I never even thought twice about until I was looking on yelp for a green juice place.  To my surprise, the closest one was 17miles away!

How

As I began reflecting upon why I was so excited to get back to California tho, it soon dawned on me that I was looking forward to coming back not just because of food but really,  because of what all I had going on with my friends. And that’s when it hit me, California felt like home because of the friends I had made. So, for all you new transplants… to make a new city feel like home, really get to know the people and find some really darn good friends because these are the people that become the reason why this new city feels like home. Good luck and happy living!

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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My family

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My family and I have grown much closer as I’ve gotten older. Especially now that I live in California. I never actually considered myself much of a family person until recently.

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Since my move, I’ve discovered how important family really is and how loved I am by them. When you’re younger, you always think you’re mom is the prettiest and your dad is the strongest of them all. Of course this changes as you grow up and even more so when you butt heads. Unfortunately, this stage lasted for quite some time with my parents and I. We couldn’t see eye to eye to save our fricken lives and the gap between us just seemed to grow even bigger.

For us though, space has really helped, so it’s true that distance makes the heart grow fonder because mine definitely has of them.

We gotta love on them

And now, I can’t believe I’m entering the stage where you look at your parents and realize they’re aging O_O and like sand in an hourglass… i feel like my time with parents is running out. I’ve had several friends who’ve lost their moms and some who are in the process of losing their mums… and my heart hurts for them. So if we’re lucky enough to still have our parents around, let’s give our mums and dads an extra hug and kiss today. <3

 

live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL

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2 Keys to a Successful Relationship

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A lot of people comment on how Hoan and I always look so happy together. While that’s true the majority of the time, like any other relationship there are factors constantly straining our relationship. We’ve only been together over two years so we don’t have all the answers but I do want to share two key practices that have really helped us in our journey together. So here are 2 keys to a successful relationship that I’d like to share with you guys!

1. Open communication

So this can be really difficult to practice, especially when there are a lot of toxic emotions and thoughts. And while you think something might hurt to say (which it probably will), it’s really important to be transparent and let them be in the know so you guys can work through it together.

2. Holding on

It’s really important that when it comes to a successful relationship that each side holds on when the trying gets tough. What I mean by this is when it feels like one person is letting go, it’s the other person’s job to hold on. Whether it be staying on the phone to settle an issue or not letting the other person storm out. It’s definitely a balancing act on both sides.

I hope these two pieces of advice can help you to have a successful relationship. Whether it be with your significant other, your best friend, or whomever is important to you, wishing you the best!

 

Live simply, love beyoutifully,

ATL